| BASIC BDSM WORDS/TERMS |
bondage: use of physical restraints to achieve various degrees of immobilization discipline: practice which produces discomfort for the purpose of sexual or emotional arousal domination: imposing one's will on another for the enjoyment of both partners; high level of psychological play submission: yielding to another's will for the enjoyment of both partners; high level of psychological play sadomasochism/SM: a term referring to the intenser physical sensations enjoyed by the masochist and given by the sadist; this term is uncomfortable for many people because of its association with historical figures of disputable moral character scene: the period of time, either defined beforehand or during the course of the interaction, where BDSM roles and BDSM activities take place; also a verb meaning to engage in BDSM activity. "The Scene" refers to people who feel they are part of a BDSM community. negotiation: the process of expressing interest in a BDSM scene, exchanging information about preferences and limits, and deciding whether or not to play, and for what duration of time limit: activities, words or scenarios which the person does not wish to experience for either physical or emotional reasons safeword: a code word, often a word not used in everyday or in sexual contexts, which indicates that the interaction needs to stop or that an activity needs to be changed; use of a safeword allows the bottom to express desires and feelings which make them feel good but which can be interpreted, and should be interpreted in non-negotiated interactions, as a signal to stop; the best example is someone who feels the need to say "no" to sexual activity, because they were raised to believe such matters are bad, yet does not wish for the activity to stop; use of a safeword also gives the top the opportunity to further explore their partner's and their own sexuality and limits without having to constantly stop the scene to ask if the partner is OK I (my opinion only) do feel that in a long term BDSM relationship the use of safe words may not be needed. This is a matter for individuals and I am sure there are plenty who wont agree with me. top: one who takes control of the activities of a scene; can refer to both physical and psychological play bottom: one who gives over a degree of power to another; can refer to both physical and psychological play dom: one who takes control of the activities of a scene; often refers to a much greater level of psychological play between partners during a scene sub: one who gives over a degree of power to another; often refers to a much greater level of psychological play between partners during a scene flogger: an item which produces sensations ranging from a hard massage to hard slapping; i.e., a multi-tailed whip which may be made of materials ranging from soft nylon to deerskin to rubber vanilla: non-BDSM sexual or physical interactions or interests; someone who only engages in these |
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