| Q: My girlfriend of two years doesn't want to have sex nearly as often as I do. I'd prefer every day. We usually do it maybe once a week. How can I get her to have more sex with me? A: Having a freakishly high sex drive I'm afraid I can't relate much to your girlfriends problem, but I do understand the way a lot of women work. Now your letter didn't give as many details as I would have liked in order to work out what the problem is, so I'm going to have to generalize. First things first you need to work out if there is an underlying cause for your girls lack of sex drive..has she always wanted it less than you? Finding someone perfectly matched with you is near on impossible. Do you live together..has a little of the spark gone? Is she enjoying sex when she feels like having it? Has she been ill or tired? A lot of women need more attention out side of the bedroom in order to feel sexy and want a little loving... I remember reading somewhere that a man doing more housework is more likely to get a woman in the sack than buying her roses! Touch (non sexual) is very important, as is lack of pressure. If every time you wrap your arms around her she feels like she has to put out it will cause more problems than you have now. In order for most women to feel like sex, they need to feel sexy and desired. Genuine compliments, flirting, and sensual touch (massage is good) all help to put a girl in the mood. Not giving her enough attention is a guaranteed way to lower her sex drive .. trust me its the little things that count! If things have got a little dull have a quick look through my sex tips or visit one of my online sex toy partners for a few ideas! The amount of sex you have does diminish with the length of your relationship, but this doesn't have to be a bad thing. The key is to keep it quality sex rather than quantity. Make sure you both take the time to relax and enjoy the moment. COMMUNICATION is so important with any relationship. Have you talked about your needs. I am of the opinion that if you can talk openly with someone about sex...you shouldn't be having sex with them! Without knowing your details the best I can advise is talking, making sure she is relaxed and receptive and perhaps coming to a compromise..if she isn't in the mood for sex, perhaps she can help out while you take care of yourself a couple of times a week? If she is anything like me the sight of you sliding your hand up and down your shaft will have her wanting it for herself! If you wanted to be more specific, write back and I will see what I can do to give you some tips xxxLUCYxxx |
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| Todays questions: more sex, will you fuck me? and ass licking |
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| Q: Miss Lucy, will you please fuck me? A: Um..... short answer..Maybe ! *winks* xxxLUCYxxx |
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| Q: When I wank I like to think about licking a girl, but not just her twat, her ass too. Im scared to ask my gf to let me try she might think Im sick. Am I? Is this normal? A: Defining sick is impossible, what is good sexy fun to some is a completely disgusting perverse act to another. Licking ass or analingus is, for a lot of people a turn on. The whole area is full of nerve endings that are very sensual and sensitive when stimulated with the tongue. So long as great care is taken with cleanliness it can be a pleasant and even orgasm inducing addition and fun for all involved. Personally I think it feels great, but if you are scared of her reaction maybe explore a little first and see how she is when you lightly brush the area with your fingertips. If she pulls away I wouldn't recommend diving down without talking first, but if she seems to enjoy it, next time you are feasting between her thighs, go a little lower and give it a try. Try and pick a time when she is fresh from a shower or bath so she is relaxed about her own cleanliness.. good luck...I'd love to hear about it if it works out *winks* xxxLUCYxxx PS.There can be health risks, so if that is a concern a dental dam (or even an unrolled and cut condom) can make a safe barrier. |
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